My parents probably want me too, and I don’t really want to miss out on the meory it’s just i have many reasons why it would be a bad time for me.
My mild cerebral palsy makes me feel incredibly awkward and I don’t have rhythm. I’ve never danced before, except at one wedding reception when I as around 8 i think. and it’ll probably be Pop and R &B music which i don’t listen to usually so the music is unusual too.
I use a walker at school, but that would basically separate me from everyone when they space themselves out and I have a strong dislike from it making me stand out already. I have a wheelchair we "burrowed" from my grandmother’s nursing home years ago, but I hardly use it juat on really long day trips. And I don’t know anything about wheelchair dancing, can’t really practise it, and it has the same separation issue. Plus it’s manual, so my arms would get tired. I’d be too embarrassed to be pushed around.
I don’t really just want to sit there either, I did that in my Grade 8 Graduation dance that wasn’t any fun, and I sort of regret it still today. Hanging around the food our just sitting and watching the others do something I can’t is really depressing. (I’ve done it many times before, it was rarely dancing too)
And *sigh* no girl would want to go with me either, I don’t know anyone well enough, and the ones that go are mostly the girlish type that want everything perfect. I wouldn’t be any good for the slow songs either. Far from perfection.
What should I do?
Just go and have fun. Who’s stopping you? Nobody is trying stop you.
Earn all the fun you have; before it is too late.
I know one guy told me he using to be able to hear those birds but not any more. Just go!
GO! Wheelchair dancing is simple. You don’t have to move the chair all the time – move your body in the chair. Move your hips and your arms to the music. Yes, you can practice – put a radio station on that plays that kind of music and start moving. When you get to the dance just move you and your chair into the middle of the dance floor and park it there and start moving your body. Once in a while move the chair with one hand on a wheel so you go to the right or left. You can live your life on the sidelines or you can take risks and live your life to the fullest. Life is going to pass you by!
You should go, because you don’t want to think about it years later, and say,"I should have went.".Trust me it doesn’t matter who you are everyone will be dancing with everyone, and even if you don’t dance you can find someone to talk to.Just go around talking to people, and everyone that doesn’t want to talk to you are just shallow. I believe that you are going to have a great time, and I really hope you do go, because I’m sure you will regret not going.
Just go and have fun, in my experience the high school dances were much better than the middle school ones. So just hang out, do some dancing (you don’t have to be professional). What kind of music do you listen to? I love pop and hip hop myself.
Go!
You lose your chance of winning a nice girl if you didn’t go. While you at the party, find a girl that isn’t dancing and is sitting down to talk with her. If it didn’t work, move on to the next girl.
Listen, I was awkward when I was young and able bodied! Not to mention quite shy.
I think you should go.
I had a friend, an Episcopal Priest who had moderate to severe CP. He must have had a great mom, because she encouraged him to go for the gold. I’ve lost contact with him but I’m sure his whole life was blessed and he really took his disability as an inconvenience and he coped.
Just go. Have fun. Don’t worry about standing out. Even if you haven’t gotten to know them all, they are already aware of you. They will encourage you do what you can, don’t think twice about what you can’t do. Do your own creation of dancing. Start a new craze, get everyone to dance like you do! Put a cover on the back of the wheel chair to make it up to date.
Have you ever seen the comedian Josh Blue perform? If not, see if you can find a copy of his work somewhere. He has cerebral palsy, too. He used his very funny mind to reach out to people. Now he is a popular comedian. You may not be a comedian, but just be yourself and you’ll find you have lots of fun and make your place in this dance, and in life.
I’m deaf, I never went to school activities -even dances.
Honestly back then in my much younger years that I wanted to go and have fun
like the way it LOOKED in yearbooks. When I got older into middle school and high school, I knew I would not enjoy myself, not many people hung around with me -why bother going.
Now that I’m much older with grey hair!
It does not bother me -glad I didn’t go, I’m pretty happy in my own world but for you right now for this dance?
I like what edo edo says that he knew a guy who used to hear birds and now not anymore… just go! Nicely put!
Sorry I could not answer like everyone else, but my part is different -just wanted to let you know I don’t feel bad about missing my dances.